Make space for everyone’s preferences

Friends’ gathering agreement

Some want a quiet hour; others hope to stay all evening. Write what each person wants, read it together and make a plan yourselves. Different preferences do not need to become a contest.

No personality type, score or diagnosis is needed. This tool does not assign roles by MBTI or treat introversion as social anxiety. Anyone can decline to join or discuss another arrangement.

Start a gathering draft

Entries stay in this page’s memory: no upload, browser storage, URL data or public result. No AI or account is involved. Refreshing, leaving or switching languages clears the draft. Export first if you want a copy.

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1. Each person writes their preferences

Use one device together. Each person fills in all four fields in their own words; nicknames are optional. “Not sure yet” is an answer to discuss, not consent. Blank fields never count as agreement.

Include 2–6 participants in this conversation. The preferred gathering size can be different from the number filling in this sheet.

Friends’ gathering agreement
Participant APreferences still missing

How many people would you like, including yourself? Write a range or describe who you would feel comfortable inviting.

How long would you like to stay? Include arrival or leaving times and any limits you want others to know.

What activities, pace, noise level and setting work for you? Mention breaks or anything you would rather skip.

Are you comfortable with people leaving early? What about your own departure? Describe any conditions or arrangements to discuss.

Participant BPreferences still missing

How many people would you like, including yourself? Write a range or describe who you would feel comfortable inviting.

How long would you like to stay? Include arrival or leaving times and any limits you want others to know.

What activities, pace, noise level and setting work for you? Mention breaks or anything you would rather skip.

Are you comfortable with people leaving early? What about your own departure? Describe any conditions or arrangements to discuss.

Participant: 2 / 6

2. Read everyone’s own words

Keep differences visible. No average, score or automatic compromise is calculated. Return to a person’s form above to change their words.

Participant A

Comfortable gathering size
Not entered
Time and duration
Not entered
Activity intensity and environment
Not entered
Leaving early
Not entered

Participant B

Comfortable gathering size
Not entered
Time and duration
Not entered
Activity intensity and environment
Not entered
Leaving early
Not entered

Write your own proposal: who to invite, how long, which activities and environment, how early departures work, and anything unresolved. You can keep this as a draft without confirming.

All four preferences from every person and a nonblank shared plan are needed to enable confirmation. Pass the device so each person can tick their own box, only if they agree. This is not remote identity verification.

Any change to preferences, nicknames, the plan or participants clears every confirmation. Anyone can untick their box, decline to take part or discuss another arrangement.

Individual confirmations: 0 / 2DRAFT — not confirmed by everyone

3. Keep a copy, even if it is a draft

Copy or download all original preferences, the shared plan and each person’s current confirmation status. A saved copy will not update when you edit this page. Share only with people you choose.

Preview / manually copy the text

A same-device conversation record, not a signature or proof of identity. “Confirmed” records a checkbox in this worksheet, not verified remote approval. A draft may remain unresolved. Revisit the plan together when it changes.

Remove this participant?

Participant

Their words will be removed and everyone’s confirmation cleared. Export first if you want to keep the current record. Removal does not mean they agreed.

Before you make a plan

What if we want different kinds of gatherings?

Leave both preferences in place. Discuss what is essential, what is flexible and whether separate activities or not joining would work. Neither silence nor a majority vote becomes everyone’s agreement here.

Does everyone have to confirm?

No. You can keep and export an unresolved draft. “Everyone has confirmed” only appears after every participant has entered all four preferences, the shared plan has text and each person’s checkbox is ticked.

Can friends confirm remotely?

No. This version is for 2–6 people discussing on one device. It has no accounts, public links or online collaboration. A nickname and a checkbox do not authenticate anyone.